I any of you don’t get annoyed with me for this and are really bored, would you mind helping an Eliza out?
I desperately want to replay one or both American McGee’s Alice games, but I have a Mac now. I know a version of the first game WAS made for the Mac at some point, but copies are over $100 and I can’t seem to find a cheaper copy, or an online one. I own Madness Returns, but lost my copy and it won’t work on my computer anyway, or ANY of the PC’s I’ve tried it on. I found online versions of that, through Steam and all, but it still won’t work on a Mac. My Mac is very new, and meets all system requirements other than the fact that, well, it happens to be a Mac. I can probably figure out how to do this on my own, but I’m sure it will take hours so I’d rather ask people first. I’m nowhere near as experienced with Macs as I am with PC’s for this kind of thing. Is there any way I can get it to work on my computer?
Just want to add to your answer re: the word allistic that it's really SPECIFICALLY just anyone not on the spectrum. Because people who are allistic aren't guaranteed to be completely neurotypical. They might be bipolar or have PTSD or something, and therefore still be considered "not normal" by most of society.
You ain't stoopid, we love ya! (Teehee, the usage of typed colloquialisms makes it humour!) But seriously, I am always struggling to find gender-neutral pronouns, because I'm aspie-obsessed with absolutely PERFECT grammar and spelling. As in, I will not speak if I can't figure out the grammar. Which for me is unusual, I'm typically hugely verbose.
Hey I just wanted to say that I love your blog and all your posts, my brother has Aspergers syndrome but honestly I relate to more of these than he does >.< Lol anyyyway I cant wait to buy an AutisticKitten shirt <33 Keep up the awesome work :)
Is it normal that I create a persona - an act, like an actress, in order to socialize outside of my comfort zone? When I'm confronted with a situation where I have no choice but to speak in front of a crowd, I step into this 'act' of Confident Girl but can only keep it up for so long before my voice starts to shake and I revert to my awkwardness. Is this normal? I'm a self-diagnosed Aspie.
I think there is an anxiety disorder awareness/screening day, or something of that sort. I don't know. I just remember being really proud of my friend wearing the t-shirt to school, like a giant 'f you' to the people who've made fun of her (and me) or not taken the issue of anxiety disorders seriously. I apologize for being really irrelevant and adding my two cents where they aren't needed. I just think that raising 'awareness' is sometimes like raising acceptance - and that's good. ?
Do you, as an autistic person, believe that it autism is something that needs to have awareness raised? I've been seeing these "World Autism Awareness Day" things, and I'm not too sure I, (not an autistic person) am okay with that. We don't have "World Anxiety Disorder Awareness Day" or "World Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Awareness Day", because that doesn't seem right. If it is significant to you, why is it necessary to raise awareness?
Personally, no, I don’t. If we had an awareness day for every disorder that is common enough that pretty much everyone knows about it, the whole year would be full of them. I think everyone’s AWARE of it. I don’t think that’s the issue at all. If we need anything, it’s acceptance and better options for treatments for ALL disorders.
Eliza are you back? If not please, please, please don't leave! I love this too much! It will not be the same! It will be like Steve leaving Blue's Clues all over again! I love this blog! I may be a lurker but it has gotten to the point that I consider you a friend. Do not let the hate get to you. Start publishing it! I think we Kittens would whip their ass for messing with you! Just please do not leave!
Could whoever is managing the asks now please tell Eliza that I at least appreciated her at least being open to including neutral pronouns in the posts? I just found this blog when everything blew up about pronouns. So many people just dismiss my gender identity as not worthy of any consideration for supposed grammatical reasons, as if it's okay to erase me because of an english class. And I wanted to say thanks.
<3 Thank you very much for understanding what I was trying to do.
do autistic people have to be like really good in math and technology and stuff? or is that just more commonly?
No. Everyone’s different at different things, nobody has to be any which way. In fact in my experience I’ve found that autistic or Asperger’s people polarize into direct opposites(not dependant on which particular form of autism they have): Some are better at logic and so are oriented towards math and science, and some are very, very creative and are oriented towards the arts. This is supported by scientific studies into the concept, many of which can be found online.
In either case most autistic people will have one, maybe two things they consider their “special talents”, and focus their lives mostly around those things.
Yep, singular "they" is totally valid as a gender-neutral pronoun. Shakespeare and a bunch of other reputable writers have been using it for a long time. The only people who say it's incorrect are really pedantic ones who THINK they know what they're talking about, but don't. :P Or maybe people who don't like the idea of gender-neutral pronouns.
That professor was a bitch. I shouldn’t have believed her. She kicked me out of her class for being disabled. (I’m SO stupid for causing this whole uproar. I’m so sorry.)
Question For You Guys From an Asker who Prefers to Not Reveal Their URL:
kinda wanna ask this on anon as asking it with people being able to see my tumblr makes me very nervous , but I myself have high functioning autism ( I was diagnosed with it when I was 12) when I was 18 (currently am 19) I developed anorexia and what I am actually asking is if you know or could ask your followers if any of them are aspies with anorexia and how they manage to cope with the ED voice which is extremely rigid and the rigidity of having autism and fight it
Edit from Malrai: First I just want to say I’m so sorry you’re going through this, nobody deserves this, and that I’ve marked this with a TRIGGER WARNING.
I’m also diagnosed with Asperger’s and while I don’t have anorexia I am struggling with eating disorders that I can best describe as bulimia, though I rarely properly purged, it was more of a binge-fast or PUNISH self with rigorous exercise cycle that I went through. It was awful.
I think in some ways I think it was easier for me than a neurotypical person because I was able to stick to rigid schedules most of the time and I only ever really gave in before, but before I started fasting and over-exercising I was out of control and it was awful. I think it was more a symptom of Depression now that I think of it because I’ve had several suicidal depression episodes.
But in other ways it was also harder because I’m always so self-critical about failure that when I failed, I really felt the failure. Being out of control like this caused me episodes of panics and meltdowns, more than I’d ever experienced in my life.
Anyway now I’m on the road to recovering and while I’m at my highest weight now as a result I’m losing with my doctor’s help because now HE sets the schedule and I just follow it. It’s still hard but since I’m more inclined to listen to authority, I can trust him.
But remember, the road to recovery is hard, especially for people like us, but I’m certain you’ll get there. I can only speak for my own experiences, but I hope I’ve encouraged you a little bit and that you don’t feel so alone anymore.
I (Eliza) had a long talk with my friend, malraiplayswow. She and Lorraine might start posting more. malraiplayswow, (Sarah,) has been given log-in info, and will be making posts regularly from now on. Eliza may or may not come back. I will also likely be adding tmkristen as an admin. Both are amazing people, and have offered. I’m friends with them, and trust them to keep the positive, accepting environment of the blog going if I choose to leave forever. I was in a mild accident today, and got shaken up. When I got home, my blog was full of the hatred that caused me to panic. People have been pointing out I’m not thinking clearly. I think I hit my head, but I’m not horribly injured or anything. (Yeah, yeah, “Eliza’s so pathetic, Eliza’s always getting hurt! Eliza’s so sensitive!” I. KNOW.) Maybe I should think on it for a few days.
"Maybe we’ll turn on submits later on, but anon asks will remain off to weed out trolls and needlessly angry people. If you have something relevant to contribute, and it lacks unnecessary hostility, we’ll respond. Also, if you want advice, we’ll answer privately." -Sarah
I'm a person who prefers gender irreverent pronouns, and I can see where the other person was coming from, but it could have been put a lot nicer beacuse you obviously did not mean harm but was just having difficulty grasping the importance. I'm sorry that they upset you and I totally understand that you can't keep this blog up, I'm in a similar place in life and I want to say that this blog has really helped me stay alive. Thank you for making it, and I wish you luck.
I have trouble grasping ANYTHING, honestly. Objects, subtext, and speech. I’m the worst English major ever. I get good grades, but yeah.
(cont'd) I don't think you're trying to be an asshole at all, but yeah, someone's identity/preferred pronouns should always take precedent over grammar rules. It's hard to properly explain in an ask, but maybe you could read up about trans* identities if you're curious. Also, "cis" isn't meant to be an insult. It just means "not-trans". :]
I didn’t think it was an insult. I just meant I wasn’t trying to exclude anyone. I didn’ man to.
I haven't been following that closely, but I seriously don't think the pronoun people are trying to attack you or say you're horrible. Non-binary gender concepts are often very misunderstood and people get mistreated just like autistic people. It's a sensitive subject and a lot of people ARE dicks about it, so people get angry/on the defensive really quickly. It's just important to be open-minded and understanding whenever possible. (cont'd)
I wan’t mad at them, really. It hurt me a mild bit, but it has been a build-up. A build-up of people going “Oh my god blah blah blah, this blog is horrible! I hate the image descriptions! I hate the fact that she is being gender-neutral! I hate the fact that she isn’t! I hate her! I hate the fact that there aren’t image descriptions!I hate the fact this meme exists! I hate the fact that she’s Autistic! Why would someone give her the Internet? Eliza is so stupid, Eliza is so ugly!” I have enough of that every day offline. I have to panic every time I get a text. I was trying to be strong. But, yeah. I’m just a scaredy cat, trying to be a lion. And I’m not.
If you're that bad off, you should check yourself into a hospital. Because the only reason it's "keeping you from killing yourself" is in a way you know you actually ARE killing yourself so you don't have to worry. Just go get some help for how you're feeling. Your vice isn't going to hold you together forever.
I don’t have the money for a hospital. I can’t take out a loan. I don’t know anyone who can afford to send me to the hospital. Sorry, anon. I would if I could. I’m in America.
(The only reason I’m responding to messages is because I wanted to say goodbye to some people. After tonight, I’m not logging on again.)
I think it's really nice that you have tried so hard to make everyone feel comfortable (with using the right pronouns and stuff) and I'm sorry people have been rude to you. Sometimes you just can't please everyone. Anyway, I really enjoy reading this blog and I hope you decide to keep it up! (Tip: not allowing anonymous questions might reduce the number of rude people. Works for some blogs.)
You know why I allowed it in the first place? People were scared, but needed someone to talk to. They wanted help, and asked me to please do it so they could talk and get advice from someone going through the same stuff they were. I can’t even do that.
I...I just recently got into this blog. I don't know what people are saying, but you honestly have to ignore them. I really have no where to go with my Asperger's except for my girlfriend... I have friends, but I feel sometimes that they just won't understand. Please don't stop, I know it's selfish for me to ask. But I really enjoy this place.. This place that laughs at our own flaws and makes us feel better....
I’ve been trying to. I just have so many negative influences in my real life that I’m done letting the one place I felt safe make me feel like shit. I’m so, so done. I’m sorry to everyone who has been trying to help me and loving it. I just can’t handle this. I got into a crash today, also, and injured the leg I just had surgery on. I finally calm down, get online, and get trashed.
Defending cissexism with "but I'm an english major" is a major league shitty move. Invalidating people's gender identities because you "don't like bad grammar" is putting your own opinions over someone else's gender which if they're identifying as "they", likely means a lot more than it would to a cis-person. basically, you're saying because a community is using a rarer piece of grammar, they're wrong in a choice of identity. And to think I liked this blog...
I wasn’t saying they were wrong. I was trying to explain what I thought the girl meant. I wasn’t trying to be cis-anything. Fuck…
Why am I responding to this, anyway? I’m done with this blog.
I really am. I don’t mind doing image descriptions for people who can’t see, and screen-readers. I don’t mind using different pronouns. But, no matter what I do, people rag on me and say I’m dumb, or that other people are dumb. More people reblog my images to say they hate them than they do to say they like them, now. I have enough people who say nasty things about me offline. I don’t need it online. I’ve been trying to create a community where anyone could feel comfortable, but no matter what I do or don’t do, it doesn’t work.
To the last person, they is used as a singular pronoun completely grammatically correctly. It's called the epicene they, used for an indeterminate or unspecified gender. It's been in place since the 1800s at least, so it's not new, but the trans* community has taken it as part of their vocabulary for people who identify neither as male nor female. Also being a dick about pronouns just makes you look like an asshole.
….You’re right, but it’s not commonly used outside of that.
Also, you offended me personally. I don’t think the person was being a dick. And, well, I’m an English major, and I’ve worked as an editor. My father does, now. He edits laws for the U.S. government. People call me a grammar Nazi a lot, which is offensive, but I like seeing correct grammar. So, yeah. Fucking ouch, anon.
Smoking actually increases your risk of lots of diseases which you think it wouldn't and also lots of cancers. Probably MOST cancers. These include both ovarian cancer, and colon cancer, so it's possible it wasn't unrelated at all.
I suppose so. The doctors said it wasn’t. They’re not sure what caused the ovarian cancer, but the only person to die of ovarian cancer never smoked. Maybe it was second-hand. But almost everyone gets colon cancer from a primarily red meat diet. Most people in my family are hunters who eat mostly meat. They get cancer from that. I don’t eat meat. In any case, it’s my choice. Right now, smoking keeps me from killing myself. I realize that’s ironic. It works for me now. It won’t always be true.
Why DON'T you stop smoking? :/ I can't understand the appeal of doing something you know is shortening your lifespan while you're doing it.
I used to stim almost constantly, and be more depressed and more of a ball of nerves. Smoking stops me from stimming as much, and calms me down. Everyone in my family smokes or used to, and no one has died of lung cancer. People in my family often die in their 50’s anyway, from stuff completely unrelated, like ovarian cancer and colon cancer. I’ll probably quit eventually when I get back in therapy and they finally get me on medication that works for me.
People in my family are also born with a mutation: We’re born without the part of the brain that controls addiction. It IS possible, trust me. So, I’m not addicted. I only smoke when I feel I need to, which isn’t every day, or even every week.